I’m typically an all around positive person. Between faith, optimism, and my drive to succeed, I know anything is possible. Like everyone, I have bouts of weakness, but those come and go. From my experience there is no way to fail, there are just ways to do things differently. Do you remember in grade school when you first learned math? The teacher would give you an equation to solve a problem and if you didn’t use his/her formula they marked the answer wrong — even when you came up with the right answer? That’s how I feel about starting a business, new project, or achieving a dream. There is more than one way to get the result you want, however, the way you approach it will determine how fast and how successful you are at getting there.
In business your audience/consumer is your teacher. Which is why it is vital to know how you are targeting them while staying true to your vision. If you have a clear vision and goal you will always see the glass half-full and eventually achieve your dreams. The key is knowing in business you are not working for yourself, you are working for someone else so you have to follow their equation.
If you get excited about new goals but don’t train for them you are just another person with a passion. We all have passions. You have to treat your vision like a successful business and train for it. Excitement alone will not sustain a business. Though I firmly feel confident that if you are consistent and persistent you cannot fail, you have to be honest with yourself about who you are. So let me ask you, what kind of person are you? Are you adaptable? Do you have the discipline to achieve success? If you want something bad enough, you must first know yourself.
If you function from an emotional place in pursuing any dream you are already doomed. You need to have the discipline to separate your feelings otherwise people and hardships will tear you apart. You cannot work toward action based or performance based goals if you are affected by your emotions. Let’s say for example you are dealing with a personal struggle: Breakup, loss of a job, conflict with a friend. During that time, whether it lasts one day or three months, if you are unable to function because your emotional state is not stable you will never reach your goals. Life happens. Things happen. Because life is not always predictable you have to be able to adapt to your emotions and stay laser focused on your goals. This is probably the biggest challenge I see between successful and unsuccessful people.
I saw a Youtube video of a successful twenty-one year old man who shared how he stays focused. His trick: He put his phone in a jar with a timer lock. The only way he could get his phone out is by breaking the jar if he wanted it out before the timer went off. Thats an extreme example but you do what you have to do in order to discipline yourself. No matter how much is going on around you there are enough hours in a day to spend time working on your dreams. I used to spend hours — sometimes even weeks studying how to do things. Making lists, setting goals, and creating inspiration for myself. WHAT A WASTE OF TIME. Discipline means actually doing something. Just start. Start anywhere. If you are writing a book don’t spend all of your time rewriting your outline. Allocate time each day to write your book. Performance based goals work well in disciplining yourself. Discipline yourself to set 1-3 achievable goals each morning. Complete each goal and after a few months of doing this you will look back at your progress and be encouraged to keep going.
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How do you talk to yourself about your vision? How do yo talk to others about it? The expression actions speak louder than words apply to more than just romance. It applies here, too. If you talk yourself or someone else up over and idea and make promises you can’t keep you will over promise and under deliver. In business you will lose a client; personally you will be filled with doubt from broken promises to yourself. Broken promises to yourself will discourage you from going any further. If you continually adapt to your doubts your dream will fizzle out and you will get burned out. I don’t think people suffer from writers block or inspirational blocks, they suffer from a mental block. A block they have placed on themselves. When pursuing your dreams you must honor your own word. If you say you are going to do something do it. Train yourself to reverse your negative thoughts to focus on first believing you can do it, then proving to yourself you can. Always remind yourself you are worthy.
This is my biggest pet peeve in a person with a dream who complains about not reaching a goal but doesn’t do anything to achieve it. Get off your ASS and do something! I believe some people need hand holding more than others, but no one is going to make your vision come to life. No one wants to see you succeed more than you do. Which is why you have to be proactive. Talk the talk all you want but unless you walk the walk you are just another statistic. I have a friend who has been complaining to me for four months that he has this vision with deadlines of completing it. All he talks about is how he “can” be successful if he could just get past this one little hurtle. As someone who wants to see him succeed it is utter frustrating watching him wait for someone else to build his dreams. Take the initiate. Try once and hit a home run, or try one hundred times, but just try. With resources like Google and YouTube available teaching yourself is the easy part. It’s being proactive in applying those lessons that requires work.
It’s a new year and an opportunity to invest in yourself. I know it’s scary but so is living a life of regret. Talk to yourself. Get real with yourself about what kind of person you are. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You have try again? If you are struggling from any of these characteristics take the time to train yourself. You know intuitively what works and what doesn’t. You know yourself better than anyone does so be true to that person and lead with that foot in 2020.